LET'S face it, many people consider size the be-all and end-all of sexual satisfaction, causing many men to obsess over whether their tool is adequate enough to do the job, and some women to dread the moment their perfect man unveils his member. But while size might play a role in sexual pleasure, sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill says that bigger is not always better.
“Sex is more than just the penis size, and bigger is not always better. In fact, the ultimate goal of sex is consistently providing pleasure, with the aim of yourself and your partner achieving an orgasm, the source of which does not have to be penetration alone,” Dr McGill said.
He reasoned that some women cannot achieve an orgasm by being penetrated alone, and sometimes having a smaller member is a window of opportunity for many couples to enjoy a more exciting, fulfilling love life, because they would be open to exploring new sources of pleasure such as the use of the hands, mouths and toys.
So how do you maximise a partner's minimal member and make the experience work for both partners? Dr McGill said to:
Go for oral stimulation
Focus on his strengths and stop seeing his minimal member as a handicap. You may want to engage in more oral stimulation, so develop your muscles by sucking on sweets or guinep seeds. Imagine the seed or sweet in your mouth is a football and your tongue is the foot. Follow the basic rules of football, except do not shoot for the goal (your throat). “Muscularly fit tongues can open up new ways of experiencing sexual intercourse,” Dr McGill advised.
Make sure foreplay is hot and steamy
Of course, nothing can make sex more exciting than really great foreplay, and this is exactly what your man needs. If you know his arousal points, get to them; and if you don't, explore until you find them. Never stop kissing and fondling him. All this sexual excitement will send blood rushing to his member and, of course, help to make him as hard and large as possible. This will increase your chances of sexual pleasure.
Try specific positions
There are some sexual positions that enhance friction as well as allow for full penetration. Experiment with which ones work for you.
Use less lubrication or none at all
In the absence of added lube, friction from thrusting will be increased, resulting in more pleasure, and it will also make his member feel bigger.
Do some kegel exercises during the act
This is known to increase sensation for both parties. It can actually be quite a boost for many men.
Communicate with your partner
Sex is about pleasuring each other. Help him to make the sexual experience better by saying what feels good or what you would like to try.