WHEN we were younger, thoughts of dating older men probably never crossed our minds for obvious reasons — we were attracted to young, hot and hip men.
However, as we got older and inched up into our twenties, many of us got tired of men our own age constantly disappointing us, causing us to consider the alternative — dating older men.
All Woman asked readers who grew tired of men their own age to share the things they find alluring about older men. Check out their responses below:
Lamoy, 34, business owner:
I decided to date older men when I was about 25. I had one wrong run, but then I scored the best man on the planet. My partner is 56 and we have been together since I was 28. I appreciate an older man for many reasons, one of which is that he already knows what he wants.
He has been around the block and so he is stable and, to be honest, I met so much hard life growing up I needed someone who was financially secure, and it's not like I wanted to depend on him because he helped me to start my business and I maintain myself financially from it. He still treats me to luxurious weekends and so on. He is a man who knows how a woman should be treated.
Iyana, 26, engineering student:
I am dating an older man because young boys don't know what they want. Many times I know people see me with my partner, who is close to 60, and think, 'Oh, she is a gold digger', but that is nowhere close to the truth.
This man is a real man. This man sits me down and teaches me important things in this life about business and school, and even some important things about life that changed my whole outlook. No young boy had ever made love to me the way that this man has. He is a real lover, and then you know even when school gets hard, he is there encouraging me and supporting me.
These young boys would be up in my inbox every day worrying about how long I have not let them between my legs.
Samantha, 30, field supervisor:
Honestly, in the dating game, age really is just a number, but if I am to compare, these are what I would say are the advantages of dating older men: The older men I dated, one of whom is my fiancé now, are more mature, level-headed, established in his career and finances, better understand a woman and her needs. He knows how to deal with and manage a family.
He treats my son as his own, but he does not try to replace his dad, and I remember [this] because my son's father barely does anything for him.
I was speaking in the presence of my son one day, it wasn't even intentional, and he pulled me aside and reminded me that I could plant bitter seeds which could affect the man my son will become. I don't see a young man doing that, I won't say they don't exist, but older men, I believe, have an eye for these things.
Celine, 29, police officer:
I am a woman in a dominant career and so it is good to have a man who naturally takes charge, who is confident, and I get that from older men.
I can't speak for every woman who is drawn to older men, but I am attracted to the big-man look, I find it attractive. The benefits of dating older men, based on my experience, is that he tends to be more mature, so I don't have to deal with the peeping in my phone and the jealousy.
I have two children and he accepts them as his own, he has adult children and does not want any more kids, and thankfully, I don't want any more either.
Honestly, I have had the best sex with him and I guess that is the experience being on his side. he also knows how to treat a woman; he really knows how to read me, a gift he said he acquired with age.
Other things I would say is that he makes good conversation, not just with me, but at family gatherings, too, and he, of course, is financially secure and very supportive.
Tashana, 31, nurse:
I have loved older men or at least the idea of them from I was a teenager. Having the experience now, what I would say are the best things are that they often know what they want; they are more likely to be gentlemanly; they appreciate you for who you are — flaws and all; they will not be afraid to be vulnerable and to be open emotionally.
I also love that he gives me his undivided attention, that he listens, pays attention to detail, and very importantly, shows and treats me with the utmost respect.
— Penda Honeyghan