It's one thing to hear that your partner cheated; but it's a whole different story to deal with the aftermath. Below women tell how they forgave and looked past their men and their cheating sprees.
It was hard because my husband slept with a close friend of mine and even though he explained that he was drunk and she was there at the house and he just didn't know what exactly happened, it was hard for me to look past it. I had to disconnect my friendship with her and the only reason I fought for my marriage was my children. I remembered how much my husband was there for me over the years and I was not about to throw it down the drain. I started with counseling, and I recommend that for couples going through this.
I think it was just God. I mean my husband cheated more than 10 times and I kept overlooking it, but the last one shook me to the core because she got pregnant. I suggest seeking professional help because if it was up to me, I would be in jail because I seriously wanted to harm him for doing that to our family.
I never went to counselling; we simply had a serious talk about why he did it and to my surprise he said he did it because I wasn't intimate with him for months and he was sexually starving. Sometimes ladies you need to have the hard conversation with your man and not be defensive. It was hard for me to hear it but I understood how he felt. We have been excellent since. The only way to fix a problem is to first know what it is.
My man has played some serious games and I am still with him because my love for him is real and I understand that sometimes men do dumb stuff for no reason. My coping mechanism is not to search through his things and once it is not in my face, I don't try to start drama. And we go to counselling two times monthly since the last act of cheating and it has been good since then, which is approximately five years ago.
Counselling helps but what really helps is simply talking through it with each other, understanding each other, and making a commitment to improve the relationship.