Marrying Wine With Divorce

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with Debbbian Spence-Minott

Thursday, May 09, 2019

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Marriage is a sacred commitment between two people who have expressed their undying love and who have decided to devote the rest of their lives together. Often, the union produces children and families are joined. So, let us address the elephant in the room. Why this topic? My response would be 'why not?'. The fact is an increasing number of marriages are ending in divorce. A quick look at the statistics confirms this. Something happened along the journey and the love that once was everlasting has gone with the wind. Some amicably and some not quite so. But life goes on. Some people will use this period of time for self-reflection, finally some 'me' time to determine the way forward. Others may rely on the support of their friends and family to get them through this period. It is during these link-ups a pity party ensues or an I-will-survive-and-live-my-best-life mentality sets in. Each scenario may favour a glass or two of wine. However, please note that alcohol consumption must never be thought of or used to eliminate emotional pain as after the drinks are done the problems still remain. Moderate wine consumption may aid in relaxation and a sense of euphoria. So, in this article I share a few wine suggestions as you look forward to new beginnings.

1 Just Me, Myself and I — Suitable for moments of self-reflection and calm, the Amado Sur Torrontes from Argentina would be ideal. This blend of Chardonnay and Viognier has refined aromas of rose and jasmine with notes of citrus, white peach and apricot.

2 I am mad as hell! — 19 Crimes. Based on the true story of Britain's civic reality between the late 1700s and 1800s, the Crown implemented the “savagely elegant solution” to the crime wave — punishment by transportation. Britain claimed a virgin continent, what we know today as Australia, and decided to solve their civic crisis by creating a list of 19 Crimes, punishable by transportation (exile). The assumption was that most convicts wouldn't survive the journey; as you can well imagine, it was brutal. Those few who did survive had an even harder road ahead in a strange and very foreign land where they still had to, upon arriving, serve out their prison terms before being released into the unknown.

The winemakers did not hold back with these wines and as such, what we have are wines that are big, bold, huge in flavours, almost symbolic of the very nature of the times and the people the brand pays homage to. There is something very brash and not very genteel about this brand. This makes it fun, different and appealing to people, across generations, who would rather just kick back and chill out, not caring much about airs and graces, if you know what I mean.

3 We Part As Friends, Farewell — Two Oceans, from South Africa comes to mind. I can hear the song Islands in the Stream. The fact is, even though separated, you can still rely on each other.

4 Girls' Night Out — The Lunetta Prosecco is highly recommended. Lunetta means the “little moon” in Italian and is a brand that celebrates life's small pleasures (such as celebrating this new-found freedom). It is produced by Cavit and is internationally recognised as northern Italy's largest and most reliable source of quality varietal wines.

5 Guys and the Gang — It is also good for men to get out with their friends, their boys, their gang, to unwind. I suggest the Bogle Cabernet Sauvignon. A powerful wine which celebrates your masculinity! You are still the man. Who knows? You may find a whispering angel. Hint, hint.

6 A Gift For Your Attorney — After all, you could not be still counting the zeros in your account if not for this most studious and dedicated professional. I believe the gift should reflect how grateful you are for doing such a remarkable job. Masi Amarone Costasera, a celebration of the best of Italy. Powerful, full-bodied and well-structured. This wine means serious business.

7 A Divorce Party — You have decided to celebrate your new-found happiness and freedom with a party. Well, I am certain your wine selection will be varied. However, having a bubbly Mumm Champagne Moment – a highlight in the night's proceedings signals a toast to new beginnings.

8 I Found The Other Assets! — Yassssssss! Well, what better way to celebrate? Send another gift to your attorney and pull out a bottle of Veuve Clicquot La Grande Dame Champagne. This spells independence, power, and sweet victory!

9 I'm Ready to Go — match that feeling of bravado with Motto's Gung Ho Red Blend, Unabashed Zinfandel or Backbone Cabernet Sauvignon. Mentally put on your superhero cape and think 'let's get this done!'

10 We Are Reconciling — Well, well, well! Congratulations and well wishes are in order! Sometimes, it is in difficult situations that the reality sets in that we are stronger together than apart. Plan a romantic evening or getaway with Chateau Magnol, a beautiful Bordeaux red blend or celebrate with Champagne. You could possibly try finding G.H Mumm/ Usain Bolt's Olympe Rosé as you celebrate the victories of marriage!


Readers' Feedback:

Imagine if we embraced life's moments big and small, without reservation. Together, we might fill the world with contagious joy. Please share with me your wines, spirits and cocktail experiences or comments on the above article at, or follow me on IG @debbiansm #barnoneja.


Debbian Spence-Minott

An Alumna of the US Sommelier Association

CEO of the Academy of Bartending, Spirits & Wines

President – Jamaica Union of Bartenders and Mixologists (JUBAM) Limited

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